When things don't go to plan.

We think that the steps of a plan are what’s important and that by just actually trusting, you will figure it out. But trusting that you have a plan is not what’s important; the important thing is to take the first step and start to do it. For example, if we’re talking about restructuring the company, I think what’s more important than having a plan of restructuring the company is knowing the right steps. The plan to restructure the company is the intention.

When I work toward an outcome, I can’t anticipate everything that will work or not. All I can do is keep moving forward. Sometimes your experience and your knowledge can get in the way. Sometimes within that uncertainty, you get the variable that leads to one step closer to the outcome. Thinking that you know best on something doesn’t really allow for an open mind. It’s a loser perspective on how things can go. Your rigidity can actually be a big hindrance to you. If you develop a plan that is so rigid or if you’re the type of person who becomes frustrated when something comes up or gets angry when things are not going as planned, you’re going to get into trouble.

Yeah, I guess what I’m saying is that you have to get to a place where you can just plan enough to take the first step. However, that’s not all. Aside from your self-esteem in the plan, another factor is getting bogged down in the details, the practicality of every step.

I can get very OCD about knowing everything about something before I do it and needing to know all that information. For example, if I go to a concert, I need to know where the exits are. I look around and think, “If there’s a fire in here, where are the exits? Which way am I going?” All these little things, I take into account. I don’t know if it’s because I’m just naturally paranoid or I have little faith in fire safety, but it’s something that I do continuously. I need to know how things work, and then it’s like a sigh of relief when I think, “Oh, okay, I understand the process here.”

I deal with anxiety all the time. The thing with anxiety is it’s just a lack of comfort. It is just stress caused by the potential future unknowns. However, if you think back, everything that you’ve ever faced, you’ve already dealt with it. Now, you may have failed; things may have gone wrong. You may have been embarrassed. You may have been mortified. You may think, “Why did I do that? Why did I say that?”

You don’t want anxiety. However, here’s the thing: anxiety comes not from the fear of the unknown; it’s from our worry that we will not be able to do what we need to do at that moment. You are working really hard to do everything that you need to do just so you have comfort in the future. You’re trying to create a sense of what you’re about to do. But you have always dealt with everything you’ve ever faced, and you will always deal with everything you’ll be facing in the future.

So let’s go. Take that step. Everything will work out in the end. If it hasn’t worked out, it’s not over yet. It’ll all work out in the end. You just need to trust that you’re going to get from A to Z. Get started, know your goal, and trust that you will figure it out. Trust in yourself, not in the plan. Your trust in yourself is way more valuable because you’re the one who’s actually going to do it.

Yeah, plans are just affirmations on a piece of paper that you’re going to do something. They’re not the tangibles. They’re not the translated elbow grease that’s going to get things done. You’re going to do it. It’s up to you. The plan is just an extension of your ability, your skills, your belief in yourself. That’s all it is. It’s not concrete. You actualize it; that’s your job.

So we’re going to get there, and I trust that when we’re there, we’re going to figure it out.


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